Monday, June 1, 2009

I Don't Care Much for Words of Doom

Likely it's mostly a reflection of personal sensitivity given my fluctuating moods of late, but it seems to me I've witnessed more negative navel gazing in the past few weeks than is entirely healthy. The balance between optimism and pessimism is always a challenge, but if you pay attention only to the rain brought on by life's dark clouds, you'll tend to miss the bright colors revealed when the sun peeks out, as it inevitably does.


It's best to be on guard against creeping negative attitudes because positive change flows only from constructive actions and those actions are nurtured by the feeling of empowerment.


In every problem lies an opportunity that's waiting for someone to take action. Of course there is value in identifying problems; the world if full of arm chair critics who excel at that. There is even more value in identifying solutions; there tends to be a plethora of those as well. But in the end, the greatest value lies in taking action. After all, grand designs don't build themselves.


One of the problems I see is a lack of leadership from many of Eclipse's largest commercial members. We could bemoan that situation at length, but I gave up on that approach last July; soon it will be a year since I threw my shackles away. It's best to view the current situation as an excellent opportunity for smaller players and even individuals to step in and take charge. Don't complain about the economic downturn either. Sure this presents a significant barrier to all the players large and small, but those who persist will prevail and those who whine will fail. We should feel empowered by the extent to which individuals are making a significant impact at Eclipse; history is rife with such individuals and ultimately they shape our world.


I don't care much for words of doom. We should look beyond problems toward solutions and then take the next step toward action. And don't look to others to take those actions, look to yourself. Are those imaginary shackles constraining you? Throw them off! If someone tells you it can't be done, prove them wrong. Your greatest feeling of accomplishment will come from overcoming the most daunting adversity, so embrace challenges with a vengeance.

13 comments:

zelda14 said...

I mostly like your feelings. Anyway I would prefer 'conviction' rather than 'vengeance'. The only way I found to step forward is to ignore people who have a negative attitude. Don't throw your energy with them, you will never have something back. I'm thinking on one the latest thread on eclipse.modeling.
Your first point was about lack of leadership from our biggest company contributors. I agree there is always space for people who want to do something. e4 is coming a new step forward for our community.
Cheers.

Kevin McGuire said...

"It's best to be on guard against creeping negative attitudes because positive change flows only from constructive actions and those actions are nurtured by the feeling of empowerment."

Ed, that was really excellent.

Anonymous said...

Sorry for offtopic comment, but most of your blog entries are hard to read due to huge, absolutely unrelated images in the middle of the text.

I like your entries, but it is hard to get the point.

Is it possible to made images optional? Provide a link to it, provide some thumbnails, but don't include it in the middle of article in full size.

Ed Merks said...

The pictures are thumbnails of much larger pictures, at least on the planet feed and on the blogger site itself. Perhaps other rendering engines aren't doing as good a job...

The pictures are also on topic. The first picture is of bright color revealed in the sunshine after a rain shower; that's what the preceding sentence was about. The second is of a guard on duty in front of a palace in Sweden; being on guard is what the preceding sentence was about. The third is of a grand cathedral built by human hands in Sweden; that's what the preceding sentence was about. The final is of an individual who is commemorated for having left his mark in the world; again the topic of the preceding sentence.

Donald Smith said...

Ed, pay no attention to the anonymous trolls -- your blog is why many people check in here daily... I wouldn't change a thing...

Bjorn Freeman-Benson said...

I agree: action is where it's at. Preaching doom is easy and because it's easy it should be ignored. People (like you) who stand up and do something are who I listen to.

Unknown said...

Keep the pictures Ed, they make your blog even more interesting to read. And I don't say this just because this time you have been visiting my home town, beautiful Stockholm. (You should have pinged me. I owe you at least a couple of beers).
---
Anders

Bruno L. said...

Yes, keep the pictures, Ed !
Your blog is original and refreshing.

John Conlon said...

Ed, your pictures have made your blog one of my thirteen year old daughter's most requested site when she stands behind me when I am working.

(I just hope all the enthusiasm for emf and eclipse won't ruin my plan to convince her to become a CSS designer so she can redo my website;-)

ps - I like the pictures too,

Kenn Hussey said...

Ed, it would seem that navel-gazing period (positive or negative) is an inhibitor to action; we need less talk and more walk!

梁爵 said...

2021.03.30台中海派酒店打工名花「昆凌」之稱的張姓女子,稱自己有1.7億身家,農曆春節痛訴遭小6歲男公關Seven騙錢,還痛罵對方是「沒錢的花心渣男」,而讓她陷入愛河的原因,竟然只是因為一個便當。據《酒店工作新聞網》報導,酒店小姐張女4年前惹上詐欺官司,因為心情不好和朋友上夜店,剛好遇到Seven,不久對方開始追求她。一開始,張女認為Seven年紀太小,不願意接受,但對方不死心,為了她不去酒店上班,還每天帶便當給她吃,逐漸融化她的心,最後終於抱得美人歸。不過,2人交往並非一帆風順,張女直言,「沒有女友可以接受男朋友每天和一堆女人搞曖昧」,她和Seven常為了一些事情吵架,「但他堅持他愛我」,更透露2人擁有相同的人生境遇,「我們都是從小出來工作的人」,因此希望可以一起攜手走向未來。至於張女提到被Seven騙錢,她事後改口說的「是氣話」,還表示Seven對她很好,上周已收到聘金,還開心試婚紗,預計5月結婚,更自爆懷孕超過2個月。Seven也透露,張女所寫的內容都是誤會,不會計較,因為那都不是事實,承諾「未來也會負責好好照顧她和孩子」。

梁爵 said...

提供酒店打工
簡單的工作內容,將休閒娛樂變成能賺錢,不需經驗學歷
自由的彈性排班,配合自身的時間狀況彈性安排酒店上班
應徵對象
酒店應徵外型面貌姣好年滿18的女性
服務對象:政商名流.企業老闆
薪資收入基本4小時6000起跳
酒店工作內容陪吃飯.參加PARTY.陪同應酬談生意限制條件
飯局小姐外型門檻較高請親洽面談
飯局女孩工作簡單高薪又輕鬆
工作內容:保持親切笑容,維持良好互動。如:唱唱歌、聊聊天、倒酒小酌、桌面清潔。
酒店兼差時間:營業時間為下午三點至翌日凌晨六點,自選時段上班6~7小時即可,任選二至五天報班。
優渥薪資
時薪800-1000元外加小費,平均月薪10萬以上
兼職一週約領15000~25000元以上
正職一週約領25000~50000元以上
酒店面試:酒店公關、酒店小姐
酒店工作
內容
便服店,禮服店,制服店
唱歌,聊天,玩遊戲,整理桌面,有互動。
酒店公關時間:營業時間下午2:00開始至凌晨7:00,可任選時段。
每天7H為主,可兼職。
酒店薪資部份周領,日領,小費自取月入十萬以上。因人而異喔!
【舒壓會館】
早晚班美容師,無經驗可
工作時間:中午12:00~凌晨5:00
時段任選薪優可日領
聊天小姐
口齒清晰,態度親切,無經驗可
工作時間:中午12:00~晚上7:00
時薪1000元~1300元,每天現領。

【優質女神】
工作內容
保持親切笑容,維持良好互動
如:唱唱歌~聊聊天~倒酒小酌~桌面清潔
上班時間營業時間:晚上10點至隔日早上10點(任選8小時即可)
依本身狀況報班,週休2-4天
量身訂做般的出勤,絶不影響原本的生活
優渥薪資
平均月薪10萬以上
兼職一週約領15000-25000以上
正職一週約領25000-50000以上
八大職缺-種類與坐檯內容(酒店/紓壓會館)

「禮服酒店」:
禮服店較適合無經驗的新人,而且沒有秀舞。
穿著以緞面、合身、開領、無袖的短禮服為佳。
工作內容以包廂氣氛熱絡為主,強調與客人間的互動,如唱歌、喝酒、桌面服務等(我們有專文提到)。
商務客層約占6~7成。不像便服店的條件要求相對較高,也沒有便服店「拚框」的競爭壓力。
「便服酒店」:
便服店的商務客更多,所以公關們都非常自律,會用心投資自己與經營客人,也是各方面要求最高的酒店類型,除了體態、臉蛋高標準外,也講求談吐與手腕,公關彼此競爭激烈,生存難度相對較高,而坐檯模式與禮服店相同。
「制服酒店」:
制服店的消費客層較年輕也多元化,各式各樣的客人都有。
在制服店雖然不需要亮麗的外表,但公關們妝感比較濃厚,制服以性感兩截式爲主,包廂服務強調主動與炒熱氣氛,客人作風比較親切、直接。
「紓壓會館」:
與酒店不同的是,舒壓會館都是「一對一」在包廂內幫客人按摩。
因特有「預約制」,所以每位「舒療師」會培養自己的特色來增加客源。
另一優點是【不用喝酒、上班時段彈性、早班客源充足】等,在上班20天的情況下,不包括小費,基本薪資大約都在15萬以上。
服裝儀容
專業設計師打造彩妝、美髮造型,著風格時尚禮服。

梁爵 said...

袁非(筆名涼圓)是女星鄭家純(雞排妹)的師妹,她過去曾因家庭負債,投入八大行業酒店打工從事半套性服務按摩工作,去年也將經歷寫成書。她13日看到一名確診酒店小姐的足跡,分享了自己的酒店工作專業分析,並感嘆「從確診足跡見證所謂努力」,直言很佩服對方。袁非13日分享一名確診者的足跡,並在圖片標上「大人才懂她在幹嘛」,她表示如果這份足跡分析為真,那該位確診小姐真的是日夜無休地在努力,「看得我肅然起敬。」袁非指出,確診者從週六看完電影後,幾乎是早上8點半「帶出場」後就去上班,「等於她可能連續工作從8點半到晚上12點,然後2點又接著外全。」袁非說,雖然酒店公關帶出場也可以睡覺,但畢竟還是工作的一部份,所以該小姐可能也不會有休息和享受的時間,「隔天週日上班、週一上班,週一下班後又外全、結束又直接上班……酒店上班小姐都這麼努力了,富堅你在幹嘛──咳,我是說,我在幹嘛。」袁非分享自己在八大行業上班的經驗指出,撇除黃金週五,星期六和星期日業績不是大好、就是大壞,通常她在周末上完班,接下來的兩天就會排休;而其他固定上平常日的酒店小姐則不會在週末出現,「通常是因為家庭日。」對比確診小姐的作息,酒店經紀直言:「簡直中山區One piece!」認為對方會這麼努力,一定是有自己的信念,「因為那真的非常累,不是我當時那麼敷衍的理由可以支撐的。」袁非也說,可能會有直男嘲笑「這種努力我可佩服不來」,但她霸氣表示:「是,酒店應徵不畏人言,堅定地自己朝目標努力的人,你佩服不來。」袁非過去家中負債,畢業後打工發現收入實在不足,涉世未深的她,隨意挑了間按摩店去應徵按摩妹。起先只是做單純的按摩服務,不過看著別人1天賺1、2萬,她也決定下海從事半套性服務。袁非在還清負債後,因不想重蹈覆徹、回到過去擔心錢的生活,相當努力地將賺的錢拿去投資買美金,還曾遇到掃黃導致收入中斷付不出保單,讓同事笑稱:「第一次有酒店上班跟我借錢拿去存。」【袁非坐檯小姐臉書全文】如果這張圖的分析為真,那她真的是日夜無休的在努力,看的(得)我肅然起敬。她的週六,看完電影大約2點到8:30之間,可能是休息睡覺時間,但她幾乎是8:30外全結束就去上班。等於她可能連續工作8:30-晚上12點,然後2點又接著外全。雖然外全也是可以睡覺,可是畢竟還是酒店上班,所以她可能也不會有休息和享受的時間。隔天週日上班、週一上班,週一下班後又外全、結束又直接上班……小姐都這麼努力了,富堅你在幹嘛──咳,我是說,我在幹嘛。要是紅字推測是真,對比我以前上班,撇除黃金週五,六日通常不是大好就是大壞。大好身累、大壞心累,通常這樣累完我一二一定會排休;而一到五固定出現的小姐們有極高機率六日不會來,通常是因為家庭日。當時以我們這兩種小姐為大宗,如果紅字推測是真的,六日一二都會上班,而且是外全加上班的小姐簡直──中山區One piece!要知道不是妹有心上就有班上,肯上班和能上班對我們來說不是一回事。:「可是這樣拼的目的是什麼?是因為她靠勞力工作,真的要有高收入就是要這樣長時間工作…在工作的角度來說,努力是必要,但是投入這樣的努力可以換到的成果可以是什麼?短期內會有錢沒錯,可是長期可以累積什麼?」友人這樣問我。:「安全感吧。」我說。在債務還清之後,曾經有一大段時間我失去方向,也不知道我為什麼要努力賺錢。於是把錢拿去買了很多「以前想穿的衣服」、「以前想吃的零食」去彌補曾經匱乏的遺憾。但我沒有因此完滿,因為我依然沒有買到未來。我後來告訴自己:「不知道將來要做什麼沒關係,反正做什麼都離不開錢。賺錢就對了。」但我相信若真是以紅標上的賺法,她一定有她的信念。因為那真的非常累,不是我當時那麼敷衍的理由可以支撐的。一定又要有直男笑了:這種努力我可佩服不來。是,不畏人言,堅定地自己朝目標努力的人,你佩服不來。